It’s easier said than done, I know. What I learned a long time ago, and not without intense difficulty, was that some people are just born to be miserable and they usually want to take everyone else down with them. So how do you ignore the constant negativity in this world and not let the nasty things people say ruin or day, week or even longer? These 7 tips should help you understand that you don’t have to be a slave to the negativity.
1. It’s usually not about you at all
Nine times out of ten, the negative comments spewed in your presence has absolutely nothing to do with you as a person. There are a lot of very unhappy people in the world and understanding that you are not necessarily the target of their negativity, even though it’s said in your presence, is key to not taking it personally. You are not going to change the mind of someone who is hell bent on being a negative Nellie, so save your time and energy.
2. See the truth if it serves you
Another idea is to take the comments with a grain of salt, but also understand that there may be areas you can improve upon, and at the same time, analyze what is garbage and what is truth. Nobody knows you better than you do, so it’s up to you to decide what you will take as truth and what you will not. If you’re unable to make the distinction and you take everything as critical against you, then try to ignore the negativity and go about your day.
3. People love to share their nasty mood
You know the saying “happy wife, happy life”…Well, there is another one “If I’m miserable today, everyone is going to be miserable today”. People who act this way would rather bring everyone else down around them because that is soooo much easier than shaking off that negativity and replacing it with something positive. If you see your co-worker is in an exceptionally bad mood, don’t engage with them and, if you do, never, ever take it personally.
4. Opinions are like belly buttons – everyone has one
There are more than 7 million people on this earth. Are you going to let the opinion of a few people ruin your day?? Don’t give them the power to do that to you. If you are too sensitive and don’t have the ability to shrug off the negative comments from these people, you must try to ignore them and carry on. They don’t run your life and they most certainly shouldn’t run your feelings!
5. There’s a lot of messed up people in the world
I truly believe some people are absolutely incapable of being polite and personable. They have spent so many years manipulating others and hurting people with their comments that it has become second nature to them. Disregard the opinions of these people and stay as far away from them as you possibly can. Research has shown that you become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. If someone’s actions or words don’t serve you in a positive way, you must stay away!
6. Only YOU know YOU
None of us are the same, and that’s a good thing. Remember that you know yourself best. You know your strengths and weaknesses, morals and values. If someone you barely know doesn’t treat you with the respect and dignity everyone deserves, or believes your values are ridiculous in some way, don’t worry about it. Stand strong for who you are and what you believe in regardless of what anyone else says. Eventually you will find that you are much better at dealing with negative and critical people the more you understand that YOU ARE YOU, AND THEY ARE THEM.
7. Never let others ruin your day
If someone has the power to ruin your day, that’s on you, not them. Accept you for who you are and don’t let anyone’s comments or opinions rattle you in any way. You know the saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”….well, that goes for the person who’s at the receiving end of negativity too. You won’t get anywhere with nasty people if you stoop to their level. Keep a smile on your face and don’t give them any power.
I saw this wonderful quote once…. “People will always notice the change in your attitude towards them, but they will never notice it’s their behavior which made you change”
Hang onto your power and hold your head up high!
See you at the top!