I am going to be completely transparent to all of you right now, right here. My self-confidence SUCKED big time for more years than I wish to admit. When I look back on that person I was, it makes me so sad because I wasted so much time feeling not good enough. And for what??
I recently watched some home videos and in them I saw a young, 20-something girl who had beautiful long hair, slender and beautiful body, but in my head back then, I saw an overweight girl who was never as pretty as all of my friends. Man oh man what I would do now to have that body!
What watching that video did for me was helped me realize just how far I’ve come and how it really is never too late to starting working on YOU because you deserve to feel happy, loved, beautiful and worthy!
Here are just a few tips I found that just might help you get to a place of self-confidence and self-worth:
Do Something New Every Day
Trying something new every single day will force you outside of your comfort zone and there’s no better place to be. Trust me! It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. If you stay where things feel safe and comfortable all the time, how do you expect to grow and flourish?
The more new things you try, the quicker you will understand that you CAN do it and it really wasn’t as scary as you thought it would be.
Dress In Comfortable and Confident Clothing
What you wear says more about you than you may think. If you constantly wear sweatpants and long, baggy shirts, even when heading out to grab groceries, you’re no doubt going to feel sluggish and sloppy. Don’t get me wrong, I love me some sweatpants! But I definitely don’t wear them when I go out for coffee with a friend or to the store. There’s really no better feeling than wearing something that makes you feel put together because you will just naturally carry yourself in a more confident manner.
Confident Body Language
If you’re the type of person who typically sits in the corner of the room alone when in a group setting, instead try getting up and standing in the middle of the room and just listen to the conversations that are happening. If you’re not comfortable interacting, that’s ok. Just standing there, head held high with your ears open, you’ll exude confidence.
This was super hard for me at first because I would always tend to sit back and let others interact and not take part because I was never one for small talk, and was never sure how to start a conversation. What I found when I would actually put myself physically in the vicinity of conversations, I’d hear something I actually could relate to and comment on and may even help me in some way. If I kept sitting alone in the corner, I would still be clueless and alone….what fun is that!
Speak So Your Voice Can Be Heard
Now, I’m not saying you should yell when you’re talking to others, but it’s so important to have conviction in what you’re talking about. Hold your shoulders back (body language) and project from within. Not only will people be able to hear you, they are going to see you as someone who believes in what she’s talking about and they will be drawn to that.
Never, Ever Compare Yourself To Others
If you are suffering from compare-itis, you better only be comparing yourself with who you were yesterday. If you’re falling into the habit of constantly comparing your body, hair, clothing, achievements, social standing or bank account, you need to shake that off RIGHT NOW. You haven’t walked in any one else’s shoes but your own, and nobody has walked in your shoes, so stop thinking they’ve got things so much better. How can you compare your journey with anyone else’s when you have no clue what their journey entailed?? Once you start loving who you are and what you’ve accomplished because you’re doing the best YOU can do each and every day, I promise you will start to believe it.
Daily Affirmations Are Essential
As corny as it may sound, making positive statements and affirmations OUT LOUD every single day will completely change how you look at your life. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are, how successful you are, how people want to be like you, that you have the life you’ve always dreamed of, etc.
The key to these affirmations are to speak them as if they have already happened. They aren’t “wishes” or “goals”, they have transpired in your life already and you’re sending it out to the universe each and every day. I find the morning is the best time to do this as it sets your day up in a positive way. Good luck having anyone bring me down when I’ve done my affirmations! I’m unstoppable!
I truly hope you incorporate some or all of these tips in your daily life because you deserve to be loved, happy, healthy and a rockstar in your own life!
See you at the top!